Hello Quent, and to answer your question...

I don't!

I have studied theories that lean toward the notion of stored trauma. Wherein the individual has experienced a particular event which has somehow become stored. This stored event then becomes the basis for all future behavior because it is always being re-experienced. The problem with this kind of "always" theory is the understanding of context, or a lack thereof. What do you want, where, when, and with whom do you want it are more relevant to the process of effective useful change. It doesn't really matter where or when they learned how to do what they are doing now. All that matters is that they did learn. And if you can learn one thing, you can learn another. If you install a new set of congruent feelings, while at the same time holding constant the cues that elicited the former responses, you will have changed the perceived meaning of those cues.

You can take anybody, and after careful elicitation find some past event that was experienced as traumatic in some way. And if you can't find one, just keep on trying, and eventually you will install one. Therapists do it all of the time. They work out of a model that must first find the problem that needs to be fixed. But the true problem is in the presupposition. If you are looking for problems, you will find problems - period.

I'm not saying that there aren't people who haven't perceived certain events as traumatic. I have worked with people who perceived not getting a particular material item as a traumatic event, while others experienced what are considered as horrible events without any perception of trauma. The same can be true in the opposite. But to presuppose that trauma exists as a tangible item that holds the same meaning for all is far less than respectful. Each individual will make sense out of the world the best they can. As such, I prefer to think about individual personalities and the perceptions that each may have, rather than embrace an over-generalized static preconceived notion.

In other words. I don't deal with trauma, or anything else for that matter. Instead I embrace the individual personality before me. Knowing fully that it really doesn't matter very much were they have been. At least not when considering where they want to go. And using the skills that I have come to respect, what we loosely call NLP, I help them build in new dreams, hopes and desires. Then I show them how to have fun, how to learn, how to enjoy all that life has to offer. You see, there really isn't much that people can't learn do and enjoy. It's simply a matter of showing them how. NLP/DHE(TM) has given me the tools to achieve spectacular results. Mostly because of how well NLP has taught me about respecting each individual personality.

Be well my friend

Carmine Baffa