Editor's Note: In response to a query about whether Bandler reads the auras of people during trainings.
How to Train Others
Sounds like a lot of work to me. I don't do much of anything
when I am in front of a room. At least not in any conscious way.
As far as the energy of the room is concerned, it's all a matter
of what is useful that supports what you are doing in a given
moment, second, or even fraction of a second. The task is way too
large to attend to in any conscious way. To have to stop and read
people's auras as a way of setting up a particular response would
be a conscious act. Unless you were doing it at an other than
conscious level. But then, if you were using your consciousness
as an appropriate feedback loop, you wouldn't even be aware that
you were reading auras in the first place. Thus the discussion
becomes academic.
Unless of course I wanted to appeal to you at an other than
conscious level by offering you the metaphor of bringing all the
auras of the people into the room into a certain light. Yet, when
we talk about auras, we risk the chance of thinking about the
matter more visually. Sure, you could use, unconsciously, the
visual realm of auras, or you could set up a feel, letting your
unconscious work from there.
If you stop and think about it, we have a kinesthetic system.
In fact, when you break it down perhaps, in a sense, that is all
we really have. Although we think we see what's there, we
actually sense light waves and translate them into what we
perceive as images. We then project those images externally as we
make sense of what we are perceiving. When we hear a sound, are
we not really converting sound waves, or vibrations into some
intelligible form of perceived information?
Talking about auras is just that, a way of talking about it.
But doing is far different than talking. And if you are wanting
to know what to do, that would be a different and more useful
question. You once posed the question of the crystal ball. There
are things we can do unconsciously that we have yet to identify,
let alone code verbally. When people tell you what they are
actually doing, they are offering a metaphor - always! The
conscious mind has yet to develop the kind of ability that can
discern with pinpoint accuracy what actually did occur while in
the middle of any communication. And I don't know if we will ever
develop our conscious ability to that point. Nor do I think we
have to. That is why we have other than conscious processes.
It's not that we have two minds. The conscious and the
unconscious. We have one mind which does certain things in
different ways. If you want to be the best you trainer you can
be, it comes down to learning at what level of consciousness you
do what. To be maximally effective in front of a large group of
people, you just can't operate from what we call the conscious
mind. But then again, that goes for anything you want learn to do
well. It's only when you have reached a certain level of
unconscious competence that you can perform the task skillfully,
and with ease.
Sure, reading auras is a great trip, but one trip better than
that is building a thorough rapport with your own other than
conscious processors. When I am in front of a room it never comes
down to paying attention to any single part of what is being
offered to me in the way of feedback. And when you are building
in recursion, the recursive loop is based on that feedback. The
loop then becomes one of feed-forward. With the external
perceptions, the nonverbal responses of the person, or persons
you are communicating with, then becoming the driving factor for
your own future output. With all of the computations happening at
an other than conscious level.
The idea is in going into any communication with a direction
in mind. Where do you want to lead this person, or group of
people? Then, you set up an unconscious feed-forward loop, a feel
if you will. Using all of the different ways you have of
gathering information as a means of guiding your own output
channels in a way that continues moving in that direction. If you
have to stop and think about anything, even the aura of the
person, or people you are communicating with, you then take the
risk of using your own internal information as the feedback that
drives your output. This is why so many professional
communicators, educators, teachers, trainers, are not getting the
kind of results that are possible to get inside of their
communications. They are too busy paying attention to what is
going on in their own heads, and not what is occurring on the
outside.
Maybe I am reading a bit too much into your question, but then
again maybe not. But this is something I certainly know how to do
well, and always have. It's just building in ways of talking
about it without in fact doing it that is my biggest challenge.
To me there is a difference. Why bothering talking about it when
you can do it? Unless of course talking about it leads someone
into being able to perform the activity. I learned more of value
in only one year of living on the streets than I did all those
years of school. And when I discovered NLP, what I found was a
way of talking about what it was I already knew how to do. But
even without that I was still able to teach others how to do what
I could already do. The point of breaking it all down into tiny
digestible bites is for the purpose of transferring skills. But
that is still only one way of doing it. The menu is not the food.
You wouldn't eat the menu, would you?
Saying that RB uses auras to bring a room into any particular
energy is just a way of talking about something. And not what is
actually happening inside of what he is doing. It may be a part
of, but a very tiny part indeed. The issue is far too complex to
narrow down into any one piece, or set of pieces. It is only
broken down as a method for teaching. Whenever you focus on only
one aspect of anything, you are taking the chance of missing
everything other than what you are focusing on.
Learn everything you can about NLP and DHE(TM), let it become
a part of you. Build in the kind of intuitions that allow you to
operate effectively, and without effort. And any time you feel
the process of communicating with another human being becoming an
effort, chances are you have shifted your own awareness internal.
Stop, and realize that when you are wanting to be effective with
another person, you need to be paying attention to that other
person, and not to some technique. Even if that technique is one
as cool as reading auras.
That is what I think. At least as a response to your question.
And if you asked me what I had written in that response? I don't
know! Didn't think about it -- just wrote it down. Yet I will
enjoy reading it when I do read it. It's kinda like poetry. Try
constructing a really great poem consciously. It just doesn't
work all that well. But when that poem flows from the inside out.
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Stay Well
Carmine Baffa
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